Wednesday, January 26, 2022

Is There a Place for Doubt in Faith?

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This morning after a chat with a friend I started thinking about friendships, faith, and the ability to trust.

I got to thinking about the apostle Thomas and his struggle with faith.

So, I looked up Webster's definition of "faith," and found the primary definition to be a strong belief or trust in someone or something. The secondary definition is belief in the existence of God.

Somehow, I don't think God is offended by this. God knows how we think.

We humans can't believe or have faith in someone or something that we don't trust. It's impossible. 

Thomas offers a great example of how this works out in real-time.

By the time of the Last Supper, Thomas, as well as the other apostles, have spent three years with Jesus, almost on a daily basis. Yet they still had doubts.

Thomas was listening intensely as Jesus spoke with them during that fateful seder. John's gospel records that Jesus tells them he is shortly about to leave them, but he'll be coming back "to take you to be with me that you also may be where I am. You know the way to the place to where I am going."

At this point, Thomas, speaking on behalf of the other apostles, says to Jesus: "Lord, we don't know where you are going, so how can we know the way?"

Thomas doesn't exactly offer up a strong declaration of faith. But he is being incredibly honest.

Later on, when Jesus is resurrected from the dead and visits the apostles for the first time, Thomas isn't there. So Thomas doesn't believe what the other apostles tell him.

Thomas remarks, pretty bluntly, "that unless I see the nails marks in his hands and put my finger where the nails were, and put my hand into his side I will not believe it." (John 20:24-29)

One week after this, Jesus comes again. This time Thomas is with them. 

Jesus doesn't give Thomas a good old-fashioned tongue-lashing. In fact, Jesus encourages Thomas to "Put your finger here; see my hands. Reach out your hand and put it into my side..."

Thomas cries out: "My Lord and my God."

Most of the sermons I remember about Thomas seemed to dwell on the second visitation of Jesus. The part about Thomas believing.

But I'm guessing that the first part of the story is actually the most important.

That is, Thomas' relationship with Jesus was evidently deep enough that it held room for him to speak up and question - even during a very pivotal point in the life of Jesus. 

It was the doubt that served as the bridge to deeper faith.

Just like we need oxygen to live, sometimes relationships need room for doubt in order to get to trust and deeper intimacy. 

I wonder if faith, without doubt, is really faith. 

To be clear, I'm not saying that if you don't have doubts, then your faith is shallow. I'm not saying that we need to continually be in a state of doubt. But I am saying that God uses doubt to draw us closer, and if God isn't worried about doubt, maybe we shouldn't be either.


Afterthought: From Brian B. McLaren, in a recent posting from the Center for Action and Contemplation.

 Jesus showed us his scars, and we’re starting to realize we don’t have to hide ours.

So fellowship is for scarred people, and for scared people, and for people who want to believe but aren’t sure what or how to believe. When we come together just as we are, we begin to rise again, to believe again, to hope again, to live again.

Tuesday, January 11, 2022

Love Over Fear, Facing Monsters, Befriending Enemies, and Healing Our Polarized World by Dan White Jr., A Review

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“We need a movement of love,” writes Dan White, Jr. in his book Love Over Fear, Facing Monsters, Befriending Enemies, And Healing Our Polarized World. “As our culture is locked in a war between the conservative right that wants the power to legislate morality (among other things) and the progressive left that wants the power to legislate social justice (among other things), we need another way.”

A few paragraphs down the same page from this call for a new way, White clarifies the challenge that Jesus gave to his followers to ‘be perfect.’ I would guess that most Christians would define ‘perfect’ as being without blemish, or untarnished. But White makes an interesting observation.

“…the Hebrew word (Tamim) does not carry the same meaning of ‘without error’ in an absolute sense as does the term ‘perfect’ in English. Tamim means complete or whole. White offers a few examples of this more accurate meaning: “whole love casts out fear,” or “be whole as your Father God is whole.”

After offering a more holistic view of Biblical love, White makes the point about God’s image. “Since humanity is created in the image of God, a human being is a microcosm of the divine. Sadly, we often reverse things, and instead of understanding that we are made in the image of God, we imagine God in our image… we look for a God who fears what we fear, who hates what we hate, who likes what we like, who affirms what we affirm.”

Of course, such a narrow view of God naturally would result in a gathering of like-minded folk, who would tend to be polarized against anyone who did not happen to hold their view of God. I love White’s definition of polarization: “Polarization takes people that have something in common, emphasizes their differences, hardens their differences into disgust, and slowly turns disgust into blatant hatred for each other.”

Unfortunately, organized religion isn’t exempt from this awful dynamic.

White points out that sometimes polarization is based upon a two-choice view of the world.

“Certainly, seeing the world through only two choices is convenient and makes our life easier. But life is more of a spectrum of possible alternatives rather than an option between two extremes. Human nature, and subsequently Christianity and our cultural politics, consistently presents false choices. Like saying, ‘You are either with God or against God.’ Is this true? This type of speech offers no room for the spectrum of journeying, exploring, and discerning. It certainly offers us security to think like this, but it is fundamentally not true to human experience nor does it echo the primary way Jesus related with humans… The very nature of Christ Himself is beyond either/or.”

There’s also the element of knowledge itself that can lead to pride, which can, in turn, lead to polarization and hatred.

White reminds us, “you don’t see all there is to see from the spot you are standing in. Paradoxically, the more you see, the more you know, but also the more humbled you become. The wiser we become, the less wise we feel. This is the wellspring of intellectual humility – the more you know, the less you realize you know.”

To further drive home the point that Jesus was the epitome of someone who lived an unpolarized life, White offers the example of how Jesus chose his disciples. “Jesus gathered three Zealots who were militant nationalists, a tax collector who favored the Sadducee party, six fishermen who lived hand-to-mouth and were exploited by Roman taxation, one member of the Sicarii party, and a wealthy nobleman who was linked to the Pharisees. This is scandalous!... It’s an understatement to say that these men would have loathed being in the same room with each other. If it were not for Jesus holding this space, they’d all naturally slide into the cultural ditch of mutual hatred for one another… As the disciples faced each other day after day, ideological and relational differences emerged. Jesus lives and moves and breathes beyond fear – He invites us to do the same.”

Another ingredient in the mix that results in fear and polarization is the social media information (or misinformation) glut we live in. “Expert Delusion is the misguided belief that you can be an expert because you have access to information… The direct impact of this information-binging is that it erodes our ability to enter into the experience of another. It tricks our egos into believing that we already know because are informed – it gives us bloated brains.”

White goes on to observe that "[W]e think we can know things about people without dwelling with people. Being right, without loving well, is not right.”

And this can lead to a lack of empathy, further fueling the political, religious and racial gulfs among us. “Without empathy,” White writes, “we are forced to cluster and huddle with people who are just like us. The moment we interact with someone we are sniffing out, like bloodhounds, what our differences might be.”

Then White describes the differences between a culture based on law and one based on relationships. For the most part, White culture, derived from Western European nations, is one that places a high value on contracts and laws. Native American culture, by contrast, existed on oral tradition, storytelling and the value of relationships.

At this point in Love Over Fear, White begins to suggest some alternative ways of relating to those individuals who don’t look, think or worship like us. He calls up the example of Jesus who always made room at the table for people of all stripes.

“We need renewed faith that God still wants to heal the world this way [bringing strangers together at the same table] not because of our ultra-competence, but through our humble presence.”

He makes the point that “Christians do not need to seek control in order to make things come out right. Instead, we are invited to identify the kingdom of God in the midst of our cracked earthen encounters.”

“Bearing witness to the kingdom is not about controlling outcomes but awakening imaginations. This is perhaps the exceptional brilliance of Jesus’ political strategy. He doesn’t grab you by the shirt and shout in your face; He doesn’t pay for a commercial that slanders the opposition. He stays at the table and begins to fashion a world where we no longer see each other as foes. The table stands for a place of divine availability in the wilderness of isolating, fragmenting, polarizing American life.”

Finally, White writes about the ‘aikido of forgiveness.’ Which he describes thusly: “Aikido embodies this idea that when we stop meeting something with like-force, we can stop giving it power. We neutralize it, we disrupt it. In aikido, an uke (the person who receives an attack) absorbs and transforms the incoming aggressive energy… The goal in aikido is to frustrate the violence of your attacker, eventually exhausting them, neutralizing them. Forgiveness is not giving yourself over to the attacker; it’s giving yourself over to another way of being. A way that disempowers the threat.”

White recognizes that, viewed from a Western European culture, this could seem like an imminent disaster. But White’s view is that “to forgive could feel like surrender, a retreat in the context of a battle. But Jesus offers us forgiveness not as a white flag but as a weapon… It is not God’s judgment but kindness that leads to repentance, a change of heart (Rom. 2:4).”

In the conclusion of Love Over Fear, White states, “The future of the church needs a revolution of love, a love so scandalous it relaxes in the face of fear to move towards enemies with affection.”

Of course, this is no small order, but the stakes are too high to keep on giving in to fear.

Friday, January 7, 2022

Joyfully Seizing the Day

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Webster's secondary definition of joy is "something that gives pleasure..." And a Biblical definition goes on to note that joy is based on who God is, rather than who we are or what is happening around us. Webster's secondary definition of happiness is a pleasurable or satisfying experience. I think it's important, especially in modern times, to differentiate between joy and happiness. To sum it up, joy is not dependent upon circumstances, especially a Biblical definition. It's based on a relationship to a higher being (God). Happiness is momentary. 

While a circumstance can contribute to joy, it isn't the basis of it. And joy can, at times, result in a feeling of happiness. Joy is a state of being, happiness is an emotion.

Sometimes, even when things don't appear to be great, it's a good thing to remember what joy looks like. 

For one thing, joy isn't dependent upon circumstances. And it can show up in the smallest, seemingly insignificant ways.

For instance, earlier this week I was scheduled to have routine lab work done. Not a big deal, at all. But I had to choose which day of the week to go to the lab. 

So, I initially picked this Friday.

I took this option because one of the lab tests involved fasting, so I wanted to get to the lab early - and the weather forecast called for a relatively clear morning that day. I had even scrawled "don't eat breakfast Friday," on a post-it note, and stuck it to my kitchen cabinet as a reminder.

But then, on Wednesday, I woke to a very clear street outside. The winter weather that was predicted to happen overnight hadn't hit. The short commute to the lab would be easy-peasy.

As soon as I peeked through the front-window curtains to discover this, a huge grin came to my face and I actually shouted "thank you!" to God. (I could do this because I live alone and I wasn't going to wake anyone up.)

I walked out of the lab smiling! The blood draw was uneventful. The lab reception person and the technician were extremely pleasant. 

But it didn't stop there.

On the way home, I decided to fill up my car at the gas station that was practically across the street. And I saved five cents per gallon because I used a special credit card that has this benefit. 

Within a half-hour, I had gone to the lab, had blood drawn, filled up my car's gas tank, and was home.

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Once home I had a wonderful breakfast (full disclosure: including coffee, bagel, cheese omelet, and grated potatoes).

All of these things were stuff-of-life situations. Very small occurrences that would normally go unnoticed. But that day, they led to such gratefulness I could hardly contain it!

And the joy continued!

Later that same day, a good friend of mine texted me to say she had contracted Covid. I texted back to see if she wanted to pray. She did. So, we spent a few minutes on the phone praying for her recovery. To be clear, I'm not at all joyful that my friend has Covid, But I'm joyful we had a chance to pray. 

Is joy always appropriate in all tough situations? Probably not. But it is a lot easier to offer a listening ear, or be empathetic with joy nurturing a wellspring of thankfulness.

And as I'm writing these words, I'm looking out the same living room window and seeing lots of snow falling. It is about 15 degrees outside and the roads are slick. If I had kept to my original plan of going to the lab this morning it would have been a completely different situation.

Of course, the icing on the cake is that none of this joyfulness was planned. It just spontaneously happened because of looking out the window and seizing the day - a carpe deim moment in action.

So, what's my point?

Very simply: Joy is all around us. Oftentimes in very small ways. It's up to us to focus on it and take the opportunity to be thankful.

While a circumstance can contribute to joy, it isn't the basis of it. And joy can, at times, result in a feeling of happiness. Joy is a state of being, happiness is an emotion. 

Why not take a moment, sit down, gently relax your muscles, and begin to answer the question: What gives me joy? (Remembering, joy isn't a feeling, it's a state of being, not dependent upon circumstances).

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